What’s difficult in life is to stay centered when somebody does or says something that tempts us to close our hearts because their heart was closed. That is hard. But that is also how we grow. We go through those circumstances in order to evolve into people who can hold to our loving center no matter what the world throws us. – Marianne Williamson
The following are some meditative and calming ways to reconnect with your true, loving self and live in alignment with your heart centred self:
Sit with good, straight posture so energy can easily flow through you.
Inhale deeply, gently, and slowly from the bottom of your stomach, as if your heart is pulling the air up to the chest.
Hold for several seconds (or as long as feels safe and comfortable to do so).
Exhale slowly and gently in segments (bit by bit which keeps your mind focussed on your breathing, aiding in reaching a deeper level of meditation). It´s called “bamboo breathing” because bamboo does not form a perfect straight line, but is connected in many misaligned segments; it helps you connect to your body and feel each exhale through the body like running your hand over the differing textures and bumps in bamboo.
Sit with good, straight posture so energy can flow easily through you.
Inhale deeply, gently, and slowly from the bottom of your stomach and hold for a few seconds when the breath reaches your chest (heart chakra).
On the exhale, mentally say the Sanskrit Mantra “Yum” which opens your heart chakra.
On the inhale you are breathing in love, peace, forgiveness that resides in your heart space and on the exhale you are opening your heart chakra, releasing anything that doesn´t serve you anymore, inviting new energy into your heart chakra on each new inhale of breath.
Sit with good, straight posture so energy can easily flow through you.
Inhale deeply, gently, and slowly from the bottom of your stomach, hold for a few seconds, and exhale deeply, gently, and slowly.
Whilst breathing like this, focus your attention on your heart and imagine feelings of appreciation arising in your heart space. Imagine all the people, situations, aspects of yourself, experiences you have had, times in your life, places in nature, pets, animals, relationships that you appreciate. Allow your breathing and focus on appreciation in your heart space to bring you into a deeper relaxation and appreciation for all.
Send this loving appreciation out into the world, to every person in the world, to future events coming up in your life on each exhale and on the inhale, breathing in all you appreciate in your life.
I am releasing all pain, hurts, suffering, and limited thinking from every cell of my body.
I am breathing in new energy full of love, light and gratitude to every cell in my body.
The wound is the place where the Light enters you. – Rumi
I am releasing all anger, resentment, bitterness and hate from every cell of my body.
I am forgiving myself for all conscious and unconsciousness mistakes made in the past.
I am letting go of any people, situations, and belief systems that no longer serve me.
First, we have to face the notion that in order to consider forgiving someone we must have been blaming them for something. We must have anger, resentment, blame, even hatred going on in order to feel the need to forgive. Forgiveness is really an act of letting go, releasing the anger, the hatred, the bitterness, the thoughts of revenge that we have been carrying around. We can do this letting go without even encountering the person we want to forgive. We forgive by releasing all resentment, anger, and bitterness and thus set ourselves free from the negative feelings that weaken us. First we have to get past blame. Then we have to learn to send love to all. – Wayne Dyer.
I am celebrating all the successes of the past year which include being, becoming, doing, and experiencing.
I am grateful for all the wisdom and blessings I have learnt from good and bad experiences.
I am creating in the present moment all that I want to become, do, and experience throughout 2013.
I have become my own version of an optimist. If I can’t make it through one door, I’ll go through another door – or I’ll make a door. Something terrific will come no matter how dark the present. – Rabindranath Tagore
You are not your past. You are not all the things that have happened to you. You are the possibility of what can be. —Oprah
Although Christmas is a time for celebration, joy, giving and receiving, it can also be a time of adversity for many, whether that be financial difficulty, illness, death, tragedy, divorce, war, natural disaster, conflict, life doesn´t stop happening just because another festive period is beckoning. With patience, self-love, and compassion, we can try to move into a perspective of life happens but let´s turn these lessons into blessings, helping others, and making changes to laws, government policies, education etc. so that others don´t have to suffer what we have, instead of having an attitude of life happens to me and becoming stuck by circumstances.
Check out this inspiring short video about adversity and make a choice about how you´re going to approach life from now on: are you the carrot, the egg or coffee?
When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. – Henry Ford
Have no regrets!!! Empower yourself and loved ones with this knowledge that during the time you spent feeling unfulfilled, sad, depressed, unhappy, vulnerable, you also learnt the skills you need to succeed and be happy. Check out Dr. Brené Brown´s research on how vulnerability actually connects us to our joy and creating loving and healthy relationships in our lives by showing up and being authentic.
If you want to succeed in your life, remember this phrase. The past does not equal The future. Because you failed yesterday; or all day today, or a moment ago, or for the last six months; the last 16 years, or the last fifty years of life doesn’t mean anything…All that matters is what are you going to do, Right Now.
– Anthony Robbins
I’ve never met a person, I don’t care what his condition, in whom I could not see possibilities. I don’t care how much a man may consider himself a failure, I believe in him, for he can change the thing that is wrong in his life any time he is ready and prepared to do it. Whenever he develops the desire, he can take away from his life the thing that is defeating it. The capacity for reformation and change lies within.Preston Bradley
My inner beauty is radiating out of every cell in my body.
My skin is glowing with love.
Every cell in my body is filled with love and light, regenerating and re-energizing itself, releasing anything that no longer serves me.
My imperfections and perfections equally create my inner and outer beauty.
We turn not older with years, but newer every day.
— Emily Dickinson
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. – Audrey Hepburn
Beauty – in projection and perceiving – is 99.9% attitude. – Grey Livingston
You can take no credit for beauty at sixteen. But if you are beautiful at sixty, it will be your soul’s own doing. – Marie Stopes
People often say that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves. – Salma Hayek
When there is love in a marriage, there is harmony in the home; when there is harmony in the home, there is contentment in the community; when there is contentment in the community, there is prosperity in the nation; when there is prosperity in the nation, there is peace in the world. Chinese Proverb
True happiness births and evolves from within ourselves despite our external circumstances and the stories, beliefs and ideals we attach to others and situations past, present and future in our lives. The true test of who you are, how secure and resilient you are and the relationships you have in your life is when life circumstances change beyond your control or expectations. Despite taking care of your health, you may still get ill; despite working hard in your job and accomplishing work goals, you may still get made redundant; your beautiful home may be destroyed in a natural disaster; your husband/wife may leave you suddenly through choice, or by death; you may lose a child or relative unexpectantly; or you may be suffering the consequences of your actions through poor health/relationship/money choices. Either way, everything changes and there are no guarantees in life. All we have is the present moment where we can change the past and future by how we choose to act and treat others in each given moment. Instead of judging others by their external circumstances, material possessions, or bank balance, pay attention to how the people close to you and who you invite into your life choose to act when things are going wrong, when obstacles show up, when plans and projects fail, when they experience any type of loss or sudden change, this will enlighten you to the true character and qualities of that person and how their actions and behaviours could influence and impact your life for better or for worse. The following is a poem to guide you and ask yourself how you and the people close to you are choosing to live and what is really important in your/their life:
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
And if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love,
For your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow,
If you have been opened by life’s betrayals or
Have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain!
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own;
If you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
To the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful,
Be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you’re telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself,
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
I want to know if you can see beauty
Even when it is not pretty every day,
And if you can source your life from God’s presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine,
And still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have,
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
Weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came here,
I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the Fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away,
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, And if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
– Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Indian Elder.
I only talk about someone to their face.
I am courageous and stand up for any injustices I witness.
I practice daily non-judgement and compassion for myself and for others.
Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. –Martin Luther King Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail, April 16, 1963
An enemy generally says and believes what he wishes.
You can’t hold a man down without staying down with him. – Booker T. Washington
I am more than enough.
I show up everyday with my presence and commit to doing my best in every given moment.
I am loving and accepting of others knowing they too are doing the best they can from their level of consciousness.
There is hardly a more gracious gift that we can offer somebody than to accept them fully, to love them almost despite themselves.
— Elizabeth Gilbert